Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybody’s mind.
It doesn’t matter if you actively pursue this goal or you
subconsciously working on improving your self esteem. The
problem with this is that you really don’t know exactly what
you want to improve. You’re acting intuitively on external
signals.
Do you know how to improve your self esteem? Probably not.
To make it a little bit easier for you and to achieve your
goals quicker I put together 10 tips that you can utilize
right away.
1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory.
What do you want to improve or change about the way you
interact with others? Try to make only one change at a time.
Always check you progress before making another change.
2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to
always feel good about where you are now, and to exude
self-confidence about anywhere you might find yourself
tomorrow.
3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction.
Know what you want. Think about how the people you will be
meeting can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to
approach each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and
you will notice a difference.
4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the
other person know exactly how he or she can help you.
Proactive people tent to be more successful in their career.
5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly
important. (You'll be amazed how this works.)
6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in
the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be
just right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself
to notice something you like or find attractive in the
person.
7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good
listening skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's
name. If in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3
sentences into the conversation.
8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod
agreement, and address him or her by name. Apply all you
listening skills to visibly respond. The body language is
the most important part of a conversation. Practice,
practice, practice…
9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself.
Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her
life? Don't filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other
person's shoes. Be caring.
10. Stay "in the moment." Don't mentally cut off the other
person. Don't reload while he or she is speaking. What this
means is that you need to focus on the other person 100%
during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude.
Next time you meet somebody new look out for these
behaviors. Put a mental checkmark on the each of the 10 tips
and see how well this person scored. Chances are that the
person scored very high if you tent to like her/him. On the
contraire the person probably scored low if you don’t seem
to connect.
The more you practice the more likely you will create a
positive aura which is commonly known as charisma. To step
up to become a charismatic personality it takes more than
just these 10 tips.
Creating a positive aura will benefit you in every thing you
do. You will create a warmer ambience with your family. You
will be more successful in your career. Even while trying to
meet a partner of the opposite sex you will notice a
difference on how people perceive you.
Unfortunately a small article can’t do justice on the wide
spectrum of creating a positive aura and developing a
charismatic personality. You will get the complete picture
and step by step explanations in Race Kale’s new book “The
Power of Charisma”.